Category: Articles
The “Outgrown” Narrative: How Modern Mindsets Are Undermining Marriages
In recent years, a new narrative has emerged in relationship discourse, particularly among modern women: the idea of “outgrowing” a partner. This term has become a common justification for seeking a divorce or ending a long-term relationship, especially when individuals feel they have evolved in a different direction than their spouse. While personal growth and… Read more
The Imbalance of Relationship Education: Why We Teach Men to Treat Women but Forget to Teach Women to Treat Men
In today’s world, there’s no shortage of advice, workshops, and self-help books designed to teach men how to treat women. From being attentive and emotionally available to taking on an equal share of domestic labor, the cultural narrative is clear: good men prioritize their partners’ needs and meet modern expectations of respect and equality. And… Read more
Finding My Voice: When Helping Hurts and the Courage to Keep Going
I’ve always believed that helping couples rediscover love and rebuild trust is a mission worth pursuing, even when it’s difficult. Over the years, I’ve shared stories, advice, and a lot of my own heart here on CoupleCompass.org. But lately, something unexpected has happened: I’ve started receiving hate mail. Some of it comes from strangers, but… Read more
The Truth About Sexual Compatibility: What to Do When the Spark Fades
When couples first get together, physical chemistry often feels effortless. It’s exciting, thrilling, and a powerful way to bond with your partner. But as time goes on, that initial spark can start to dim. Suddenly, the desire you once had for each other seems distant, and what was once an easy, natural connection now feels… Read more
Accused of Hating Women: A Misunderstood Plea for Balance
Over the years, I’ve been accused of many things—being too traditional, being too modern, even being secretly a man. But the accusation that cuts the deepest is that I “hate women.” Let me be clear: I do not hate women. As a woman myself, I’ve dedicated my career to understanding and helping both genders navigate… Read more
Why “Happy Wife, Happy Life” Is Killing Marriages (and What We Should Be Saying Instead)
If you’ve spent any time around popular relationship advice or scrolling through social media, you’ve probably heard the phrase, “Happy wife, happy life.” It’s catchy, simple, and well-intentioned. On the surface, it seems to advocate for prioritizing your partner’s happiness—a noble goal in any relationship. But here’s the problem: this phrase is subtly, yet profoundly,… Read more
The Power of Presence: Why Stability Matters for Children and the Sacrifices We Make as Parents
As adults, we often find ourselves at a crossroads between what makes us happy and what’s best for our children. In an age where self-fulfillment and personal happiness are frequently championed above all else, the idea of sacrificing your own needs for the sake of your children can seem outdated. But when it comes to… Read more
The Myth of the Perfect Divorce: Why Separation Isn’t the Solution We’re Told It Is
Divorce has become a normalized part of modern life, often framed as a path to personal growth, freedom, or even happiness. We’re bombarded with media stories of couples who manage to split up gracefully, becoming best friends, co-parents, or even business partners after their marriage ends. It’s a neat, convenient narrative that fits well into… Read more
Why Men and Women Will Never Be Truly Equal — And That’s Okay
In today’s world, we’re often told that equality means sameness, that if men and women are equal, they must be identical in their roles, behaviors, and abilities. But is this really what equality should look like? The truth is, men and women are not the same—and that’s not a bad thing. In fact, our differences… Read more