Author: Grace Whitfield
The Myth of the Perfect Divorce: Why Separation Isn’t the Solution We’re Told It Is
Divorce has become a normalized part of modern life, often framed as a path to personal growth, freedom, or even happiness. We’re bombarded with media stories of couples who manage to split up gracefully, becoming best friends, co-parents, or even business partners after their marriage ends. It’s a neat, convenient narrative that fits well into… Read more
Why Men and Women Will Never Be Truly Equal — And That’s Okay
In today’s world, we’re often told that equality means sameness, that if men and women are equal, they must be identical in their roles, behaviors, and abilities. But is this really what equality should look like? The truth is, men and women are not the same—and that’s not a bad thing. In fact, our differences… Read more
Modern Men: Why Are They Becoming So Much Like Women? (And Why It’s Not Their Fault)
Let’s face it: these days, it seems like men are getting… well, a bit softer. Gone are the rugged, stoic Marlboro Man types who could fix a car with duct tape and sheer determination. Instead, we’re finding more men who can tell you the difference between “eggshell” and “alabaster” white and have a favorite scented… Read more
The Healing Power of Physical Intimacy: Why Sex Matters, Even When You’re Upset
In any long-term relationship, conflict is inevitable. Disagreements, frustrations, and misunderstandings can arise, leaving partners feeling disconnected or emotionally distant. During these times, it may seem counterintuitive to engage in physical intimacy. However, maintaining a sexual connection—even when you’re upset with each other—can be a powerful way to bridge the emotional gap and reinforce the… Read more
A Conversation with Faith: Finding Common Ground Between Therapy and Religion
Not long ago, I had the opportunity to sit down with a local cleric. It wasn’t planned—I met him by chance at a community event where we both found ourselves in the back corner, looking slightly out of place. He, with his traditional robes and serene smile, and me, with my notebook full of half-baked… Read more
A Cautionary Tale of Emotional Disconnection: How We Lost Ourselves and Each Other
Writing about my journey with Tom feels deeply uncomfortable—like exposing a wound that’s never quite healed. As a psychologist, I’m trained to maintain professionalism, to hold space for others without letting my own experiences spill into their stories. Sharing my personal struggles, especially one as raw and painful as this, feels like I’m stepping outside… Read more
Lost in Translation: Why We Get Communication So Wrong (And How to Laugh About It)
If there’s one thing that trips up even the best couples, it’s communication. We assume that our partner knows what we mean, that they understand our tone and intention perfectly. But the truth? It’s shockingly easy to misread each other, especially when we’re speaking two different “languages.” What one person thinks is playful enthusiasm, another… Read more
Choosing Your Partner: Why Prioritizing Your Relationship Over Your Parents Is Essential
One of the most significant shifts we face as adults is learning to prioritize our romantic partner over our parents. This transition can be difficult, especially for those who have strong, close-knit family ties. However, making your partner the primary focus of your emotional energy and loyalty is a critical step in building a healthy,… Read more